Helping 40-somethings sort out their s**t.
We're the youngest of the old. We're in our forties, we want concerts to end earlier because now our backs hurt, and our parents are facing death while we learn how to raise children. Mental and physical changes along with shifting priorities that can make for some confusing times.
I'm with you.
Maybe you recently moved to Portland and you're thinking "what have I done?!" Maybe you're contemplating marriage, a divorce, a career change, or starting a you tube channel. Maybe you worry terribly about your kid that moved to New York to become an actor, or you just feel afraid to make a move in your life; you stare at that fork in the road anxiously thinking “what should I do?” “I just can’t do this” “I’m too old” “I’m too young” or any other internal story we tell ourselves.
Life is wild, unpredictable, awesome, painful, boring, and anything else you can think of depending on countless factors. However, our subjective experience and self-worth is shaped by the decisions we make when we’re staring at the fork in the road; in fact, life seems to be endless forks, each one with decisions that affect us in many different ways.
I love working with people staring at the fork in the road.
The fork causes fear, you might get it wrong after all, and yet, we have to decide. Life does not wait. Can you walk towards the fear, approach the fork?
I’m ready to walk with you.
When I say that fearless life work happens in my office, I am not exaggerating, but I am also not saying that we should work to be fearless in the face of everything; that could literally get you killed. Instead, what I’m saying is that it takes courage to face that fork in the road. When we face our fear and take responsibility for our lives we are engaging in a true act of courage; we become fearless when we choose how we’ll proceed in the face of fear.
I will help you gain clarity in the choices you have available. I will help you understand what is holding you back from making choices.
Working with me, you will develop a deeper awareness of who you are and what you’re capable of. I promise you it’s more than you think.
Let’s explore what is holding you back from the life you truly want.
I offer a free 20 minute phone consultation so you can decide if we are a good therapeutic fit.
An Existential-Humanistic approach.
I primarily work from an Existential-Humanistic perspective (EH). We will explore the intersections of: how do you live now? How would you like to live? Is it possible? An EH approach acknowledges the entire person, not just their symptoms. To me, the main issue in our lives is what to do with our lives. We are alive, so how do we live in a way that is authentic and free, while accepting the non-negotiable constraints life gives us?
In this deeper type of therapeutic journey, the potential for life changing discoveries is greater. Through this approach, symptom reduction tends to happen through the process of taking responsibility for what we can change, as well as true acceptance of the things we cannot change. In other words, we begin to feel better as we begin to live life with more self-awareness, courage, and in a way that is more in-line with our true self.
EH is less rigid than other modalities. It unfolds in the present moment as client and therapist stay attuned to what is happening in the moment. Our working relationship will be based on honesty, personal responsibility, and genuineness.
Also, because life can be absurd/funny/ironic, humor seems to always be present in the office. The environment we create will be one of exploration, healing and growth that is tailored to you and can truly be life changing.
The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.
Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.
-Viktor E. Frankl