I specialize in helping 40-somethings sort out mid-life.
Hi, I'm William and I run Atma Counseling. I'm in my mid-forties and I'm also experiencing mid-life changes. Mental and physical changes, along with shifting priorities, can make for some confusing times. Perhaps you no longer care about things you used to care about and it’s shaken your identity. Maybe it’s the first time in your life feeling physical pains. Maybe you’re worrying about two generations of loved ones; our parents are facing death while we’re learning how to raise our children.
These new life changes require us to accept, adapt, and change accordingly. However, to make optimal changes, we need to understand our choices.
Maybe you recently moved to Portland and you're thinking "what have I done?!" Maybe you're contemplating marriage, divorce, a career change, or you just feel afraid to make a move in your life; you stare at that fork in the road anxiously thinking “what should I do?” “I just can’t do this” “I’m too old” “I’m too young” or any other internal story we tell ourselves.
I will help you sort out your choices.
Life is wild, unpredictable, awesome, painful, boring, and anything else you can think of depending on countless factors. However, our subjective experience and self-worth is shaped by the decisions we make when we’re staring at the fork in the road; in fact, life seems to be endless opportunities to make choices and each choice can potentially affect us in life changing ways.
Making big choices can cause fear, we might get it wrong after all, and yet, life does not wait and we have to decide. Can you walk towards that fear courageously?
I’m ready to walk with you.
It takes courage to face that fork in the road; to choose. When we face our fear and take responsibility for our lives we are engaging in a true act of courage; instead of passively letting life happen to us, we become fearless when we choose how we’ll proceed in the face of fear.
I will help you gain clarity in the choices you have available. I will help you understand what is holding you back from making choices that can improve your life.
Working with me, you will develop a deeper awareness of who you are and what you’re capable of. I promise you it’s more than you think.
Let’s explore what is holding you back from the life you truly want.
I offer a free 20 minute phone consultation so you can decide if we are a good fit.
An Existential-Humanistic approach.
I primarily work from an Existential-Humanistic perspective (EH). We will explore the intersections of: how do you live now? How would you like to live? Is the life you want possible? An EH approach acknowledges the entire person, not just their symptoms. To me, the main issue in our lives is what to do with our lives. We are alive, so how do we live in a way that is authentic and free, while accepting the non-negotiable constraints life gives us?
In this deeper type of therapeutic journey, the potential for life changing discoveries is greater. Through this approach, symptom reduction tends to happen through the process of taking responsibility for what we can change, as well as true acceptance of the things we cannot change. In other words, we begin to feel better as we begin to live life with more self-awareness, courage, and in a way that is more in-line with our true self.
EH is less rigid than other modalities. It unfolds in the present moment as client and therapist stay attuned to what is happening in the moment. Our working relationship will be based on honesty, personal responsibility, and genuineness.
Also, because life can be absurd/funny/ironic, humor seems to always be present in the office. The environment we create will be one of exploration, healing and growth that is tailored to you and can truly be life changing.
Words from a past client
"William came into my life in a time of great uncertainty and confusion. I was going through a lot of heavy experiences and was having trouble integrating them. I needed to find some clarity in the chaos. He helped me unpack the clutter that was bogging my mind down so I could lighten the load I was carrying around with me. He would analyze and provide perspectives in ways no on else could, without any judgment. I was free to be my full, authentic self. He was a mirror to me, able to reflect back and show me what I was truly thinking and feeling. We would pick whatever topic I wanted to explore and dive deep in it. He’d challenge me in the best ways, asked me to break down my own concepts and beliefs I live by so I could better understand them and myself. It was great being able to see my own progress with each continued session. I very much appreciate the time we had together, as these are insights I will keep with me for the rest of my life."
Words from two of my heroes
The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.
Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.
-Viktor E. Frankl